The Ultimate Friendsgiving Cheat Sheet
Friendsgiving is one of those rare gatherings that’s equal parts heart and humor, where laughter fills the kitchen, everyone shows up with a dish (and a story), and there’s zero pressure for perfection. It’s about connection, community, and comfort food shared with the people you choose as family.
Whether you’re hosting for the first time or perfecting your annual tradition, this Friendsgiving Cheat Sheet will help you plan, prep, and party like a pro without the chaos.
Start with the Game Plan
Set the vibe early. Decide whether you’re going for casual and cozy or elevated and elegant — then let that guide your menu, décor, and even your playlist.
Timing:
Send invitations in advance (a simple text or group chat works fine!). Ask guests to RSVP with what dish they’d like to bring and if you’re coordinating the menu, keep a running list to avoid six mashed potato dishes.
Pro tip: Create a shared Google Sheet or group message thread for dishes, drinks, and décor so everyone can coordinate easily.
Divide and Conquer the Menu
A great Friendsgiving is all about balance: a mix of traditional comfort and creative flair.
Here’s a foolproof menu template to get you started:
Main Dish: Turkey (roasted, smoked, or spatchcocked) or a plant-based alternative
Sides: A mix of classics and twists. Think sweet potato casserole, roasted veggies, cranberry relish, and something unexpected like maple chili Brussels sprouts
Desserts: Pumpkin pie, apple crisp, or bourbon pecan tart
Drinks: Wine, cider, and a fun signature cocktail like a cranberry thyme spritz
Chef Aarika Tip: Choose recipes that reheat well and can sit out for a bit. Friendsgiving is about grazing and gathering, not timed perfection.
Simplify the Setup
You don’t need matching china or centerpieces that rival a wedding.
Instead, focus on cozy, intentional touches:
Mix and match plates and glassware for charm
Use seasonal fruits (pomegranates, pears, mini pumpkins) as easy décor
Scatter candles and greenery down the table for warmth
Play soft acoustic or soulful jazz in the background
The goal: a table that feels inviting, not intimidating.
Plan for Prep & Timing
Don’t get stuck in the kitchen while everyone else is toasting!
A few prep tricks to save your sanity:
Make ahead: Most sides, sauces, and desserts can be prepped a day or two early.
Label reheating instructions: Especially if guests are bringing dishes that need oven space.
Delegate: Assign one friend to manage drinks, another to handle music, and someone else to coordinate serving times.
Bonus tip: Always have one “snack board” ready when guests arrive. It keeps people happy while you’re finishing up the main course.
Don’t Forget the Fun
Friendsgiving isn’t just about food - it’s about memory-making. Plan a few lighthearted moments between courses:
Gratitude circle (each person shares one thing they’re thankful for)
A quick “Friendsgiving trivia” game
A shared playlist where everyone adds a favorite song
DIY photo backdrop or instant camera station
These little extras turn dinner into an experience.
Embrace the Imperfections
The gravy might get lumpy. The pie might crack. Someone might forget the rolls in the oven (we’ve all done it). But that’s what makes Friendsgiving beautiful, It’s real, it’s relaxed, and it’s full of laughter. Use this holiday to celebrate your community!
Host Your Own Friendsgiving with Chef Aarika’s Kitchen
Want to take your celebration up a notch this year? There is still time to book a Friendsgiving party with Chef Aarika. Learn how to cook, plate, and serve your holiday favorites with hands-on guidance from a professional chef.
